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就要爱慕那纯净的灵奶,像才生的婴孩爱慕奶一样,

叫你们因此渐长,以致得救。

"As newborn babes, desire the sincere (pure) milk of the word,

that you may grow thereby" 1 Peter 2:2 King James Bible

Bible Study "Milk" Section

“…only in the Lord.”

1 Corinthians 7:39

7:39

1 Corinthians 7:39 “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth;

but if her husband be dead,

she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.”

7:39 “ ;丈 ,妻 ,随 .”

There are commands in God’s Word, the Bible, to be obeyed,

no compromise, no negotiation.

This is a command from God to be obeyed, it is very direct and simple, easy to read and see. It is for believers in the Lord Jesus, for both sisters and brothers to obey. Christians are commanded by God to only marry believers! 1 Corinthians 7:39 God clearly and directly commands Christians to marry “only in the Lord.”

2 Corinthians 6:14  “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?”

6:14 “

  God again says not to be “bound together” with unbelievers, not to have “partnership” with them (this would include business dealings too) and not to “fellowship” with them. But of course, one should witness to unbelievers. but not as boyfriend girlfriend relationship. If you have an unbelieving friend, you certainly can witness to them, but never become a boy-girlfriend relationship. Such a relationship is not going anywhere good with an unbeliever. It only allows the Devil to use that unbeliever to destroy your life. The Old Testament teaches this very clearly, which I will show you later.

Recently though I have found that even Christian leaders in China and the West are both denying the simplicity and directness of this command, that is, though they may agree it means only marry a believer they will still not discourage the relationship and/or perform the marriage ceremony for a mixed marriage, a believer and unbeliever. Some may say it is not the best marriage relationship, but one can do it. Such lies these preachers promote. This is disobedience to God’s command, marry “only in the Lord.” May God be merciful.

When you die,

you will go to the Judgment Seat of Christ to which all Christians must appear,

2 Corinthians 5:10 “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.” 5:10 “ ? .” God will rightly bring forth His judgment on all unconfessed disobedience, there will be a loss and it could easily result in the loss of entering and ruling in the future Kingdom of Christ on earth, which is the reason why man was created.

Marriage is important and God has commands regarding it.

But marriage is not the goal of a believer’s life.

Marriage is not the primary issue in life.

1 Corinthians 7:29  “But this I say, brethren, the time is short, so that from now on,

that both they that have wives be as though they had none;”

7:29 “ ;”

but ruling in the future Kingdom of Christ on earth is the first and foremost goal of life!

Chinese sisters are continually disobeying God’s Word, dating and marrying unbelieving men. And when a sister or brother marries an unbeliever, God will immediately discipline them and spiritual growth stops or is stunted for life. It is very, very difficult to overcome the negative results of purposely disobeying a direct, easy to understand command of God. Sometimes one will never overcome the negative consequences of directly, pridefully, sinning against the Lord by marrying an unbeliever.

Believing Christ as Savior is the most important decision in life, but who one marries is typically understood to be the second most important decision. Believing Christ determines one’s eternal destiny and who one marries effects one’s entire life on earth. Both are major decisions.

One should never get married thinking divorce will never occur. Divorce can always occur in marriage. It only takes one mate in marriage to divorce and the other mate has little or nothing they can do about it. Love does not force the mate to stay, if they want to leave. Divorce rates continue to go up in China. So be forewarned, you marry you may end up divorced.

People are always changing for better or worse and certainly a mate can change their commitment, if they even ever had one, and divorce. So never marry unless you are willing to be divorced. God created man with a free will to choose to obey or not, and He lost man, gave him a second opportunity by dying on the Cross for man, but God still loses some. So if God can “lose” some men to unbelief, surely small man can lose a mate in marriage to divorce. Something to think about.

What is your goal in life?

Chinese goals in life are to make money, get a job and car, get married, have children,

have a family and so on.

Psalms 17:14 “From men with Your hand, O Lord, From men of the world, 

whose portion is in this life, And whose belly You fill with Your treasure;

They are satisfied with children, And leave their abundance to their babes.”

17:14 “ ,求 ,脱 ;他 ,将 .”

Children are not the true satisfaction in life.

Marriage is not the true satisfaction in life.

God created marriage for a purpose, but it was not created to satisfy all of your needs.

Isaiah 54:4-6 “4 Fear not; for thou shalt not be ashamed:…..

and shalt not remember the reproach of thy widowhood any more.

5 For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is his name;

and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel;

The God of the whole earth shall he be called.

6 For the Lord hath called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit,

and a wife of youth, when thou wast refused, saith thy God.”

54:4-6 “4  。”

There are many other verses teaching against what Chinese traditionally think is important.

Luke 18:29 “And Jesus said to them, Truly I say to you, 

there is no one who has left house or wife or brothers or parents or children,

for the sake of the kingdom of God,”

18:29 “ : , ,

,弟 ,父 ,儿 ,”

Matthew 19:29, Mark 10:29, all spoken by the Lord while on earth, and 1 Corinthians 7:29.

Chinese traditional goals for life are not God’s goal for your life!

God’s goal for your life is found in these words,

Psalms 17:15 “As for me, I will behold thy face in righteousness: I shall be satisfied,

when I awake, with thy likeness.”

Matthew 6:33 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness;

& all these things shall be added unto you.”

17:15  “ .” 馬 6:33 “ 西 。”

If God wants you to marry, which typically happens, then He will provide a believing mate for you at the right time and place, until then you seek the Lord, His Righteousness. Kingdom and know Him better and better for this is the reason God created you,

then you will be satisfied in life.

 

Now what about Dating?

Please remember, God’s Word is the standard for our life. We do not live by Chinese culture or traditions. God has His own culture, His way for us to live, His thinking, doing and feeling, which is the best way for us, the most joyful and satisfying. There is no where in the Bible God commands dating. Dating is unbelieving man’s method for whatever reasons. People date for many reasons, to have a good time, play, eat and talk, look for a person to go to bed with, whether for one night or many.

But dating, if it occurs, should only be for one specific purpose, that is, two people are Christians, both are seeking the Lord, His Righteousness, and His Kingdom, and are interested in getting married to one another. One should never date a person that they are not intending to marry. Did you read that? One should never date a person that they are not intending to marry.

Dating just to date has no goal or direction and most times ends with bad results. The Devil will surely use the unbeliever to destroy a Christian’s life. The Devil is a Thief and the Thief only has one purpose to steal, kill and destroy a believer’s life. John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal, and kill, and destroy; I (Jesus) came that they (you) might have life, and might have it in abundance.”

There is no abundant living in an unbeliever. I have never yet met an unbeliever that has a high quality of life. Unbelievers live a very low quality of life. As an unbeliever I was also living a low quality of life. They can not answer correctly the important questions of life. Since they have no understanding of real life, they have no good meaning, direction, or purpose in life. And the Devil can easily use them, since they live in darkness and in the Devil’s kingdom, to destroy Christians lives. There are millions of stories like this and you will just be another Bad Story as you spend unrighteous time with an unbeliever in a boy-girlfriend relationship.

There are many ways for sisters and brothers to meet and get to know one another beyond dating. Christians should be committed to a local church and Biblically function in the church. This would be a typical way for Christians to meet. A good local church is one that is unknown and with good teaching. Very difficult to find such a local church.

When it is God’s time for a sister and brother to meet for marriage, He will bring them together. Until that time a person should be growing and functioning in their own home with the parents teaching them how to live life. Also the local church has its own life, and Christians should be growing in the Lord and functioning in the local church.

Now I realize all the problems society has today. Parents are separated and divorced, families only have one child and so no siblings to relate to, children live with their grandparents, no love or training from their parents or grandparents, maybe no local church to be a part of, poor teaching and leadership in a local church and so on. These are very real problems. This message is not directed to answer these problems.

Remember God says

Ephesians 5:8 “for you were formerly darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord;

walk as children of Light”

Colossians 1:13 “For He rescued us from the domain of darkness,

and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son(which is in the Light,

there is NO darkness in God or in His Kingdom),”

5:8 ‘ .” 歌 西 1:13 “ ;”

Ephesians 5:8 clearly teaches that all men live in darkness, in Satan’s Kingdom, until they believe in Jesus Christ as their Savior. As Christians we become “Light in the Lord” and are to walk in the Light of the Lord. But this verse also shows that Christians can live in disobedience and darkness. Believers who disobey God, date and marry unbelievers. walk in darkness.

If God gives a command to believers to obey, then the believer can also disobey that command. If believers can not disobey commands, then we have become robots only doing what we have been programmed to do. But that is not true. God has saved us to be free from Satan’s Kingdom and has given us freedom to obey Him and His commands. Love does not force anyone to do something they do not want to do. God has given believers a free will to obey or disobey, know God or not to know God, love God or not to love God. Loving God means obeying God. There is a great difference between believing Jesus Christ as your Savior AND growing up in Christ, knowing and loving God, obeying His commands.

1 John 2:3-6 “By this we know that we have come to know Him, if we keep His commandments. 4 The one who says, “I have come to know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; 5 but whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been perfected. By this we know that we are in Him: 6 the one who says he abides in Him ought himself to walk in the same manner as He walked.”

2:3-6 “3  便 .”

Again, you may believe in a person, but you may not know them. This is just a fact of life.

It takes time to know people and it takes time to know God,

in fact, we will get to know God through all eternity.

There is a difference between the Free Gift of God AND the Reward (Prize).

Ephesians 2:8 “For by grace you have been saved through faith;

and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God”

2:8 “ ,乃

1 Corinthians 9:24 “Do you not know that those who run in a race all run,

but only one receives the prize (Reward)?”

9:24 “

All believers enter the race of life when they receive Jesus Christ as Savior.

At that time they received the Free Gift of salvation,

but few believers will receive the Prize (Reward).

The Free Gift is Free, BUT we must work by grace and faith for the Prize (Reward).

A GREAT ILLUSTRATION OF THE ABOVE TRUTHS

NEVER FORGET IT

A person is born into this world physically. This is a real historical event in a person’s life.

BUT this baby must now grow to learn to know who his parents are,

to love and obey his parents!

The same is true in the spiritual realm. We believe Jesus Christ as Savior,

which a three year old child can do.

BUT now the new believer must learn to listen to God, know and love God, obey God.

And most believers will never, no never, grow up. This is a fact of life.

The whole Bible teaches this truth.

You can read the Book of Hebrews over and over again to learn this is true.

Now I realize false teachers, and there are so many of them, do not believe nor teach the above simple truths of Salvation, Justification and Sanctification. But that is their problem and they will be severely judged at the Judgment Seat of Christ, 2 Corinthians 5:10, for leading so many believers into a dark unfruitful life.

See http://zhangdaderen.com/SOUL-PROJECT_Chinese.pdf

7 COMMANDS TO OVERCOME SIN

Believe God” and do not be involved with an unbeliever in a boy-girlfriend relationship.

“Confess”(agree with God) your sins of disobedience to God.

“REPENT”(turn from your sin) and tell God you will never do it again.

Then “seek the Lord” to obey, know, love Him with a whole heart.

“Overcome” your sin.

“Seek His Kingdom

“Seek His righteousness.”

The first three may be easy but seeking the Lord and overcoming your sins, seeking His Kingdom and His righteousness require grace, faith, work and time. The Lord promises to reward you greatly! If you do not seek the Lord and don’t overcome your sins, you will continue to fall back into them over and over again. This is just a fact of life.

A child will keep falling until he learns to walk. He will keep falling until he overcomes falling and learns to walk. This is life.

 

Biblical Truths In The Old Testament Regarding Relationships?

How Did God Deal With Believing Israel In The Old Testament

When They Had Wrong Relationships With Unbelievers?

There are so many examples in the Old Testament of believers separating from darkness, I will only give a few.

1) Genesis 1:1-4 “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. 2 The earth was formless and void, and darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was moving over the surface of the waters. 3 Then God said, “Let there be light”; and there was light. 4 God saw that the light was good; and God separated the light from the darkness.

1:1-4 “1 

Genesis 1:1,2 God created a perfect world, a perfect universe. The universe was full of light and there is no darkness in God. Satan a good angel at that time ruled over the earth. Then he became greedy and prideful and fell into sin. And God judged that 1st world with darkness and Satan fell. And God created a 2nd world which we live in now. And in the future God will destroy this 2nd world and create the 3rd world. Three is a perfect number.

See http://zhangdaderen.com/milk.htm 圣经研习Study of Scripture, Chapter 2

Genesis 1:3 God did not let the world stay in darkness but He created light.

Genesis 1:4 And God separated the Light from the Darkness.

This is the basis of all Scriptural teaching regarding Light and Darkness being separated. Remember, as believers we are Light and we are to separate ourselves from the Darkness of this world. We are in the world but we are not of this world. We are to be a witness to the world but we are not to live like the world. We witness to unbelievers in words and action but we are not to have unbelieving boyfriends or girlfriends, we are not to marry unbelievers! But as you know, most Christians do not obey this most basic of God’s truth. We intermingle with the world, live like the world and therefore we are weak, sick, some are disciplined by the Lord and die in sin, 1 Corinthians 11:30, and all live an un-powerful, boring, dark life.

2) Genesis 6:11-13 “Now the earth was corrupt in the sight of God, and the earth was filled with violence. 12 God looked on the earth, and behold, it was corrupt; for all flesh had corrupted their way upon the earth. 13 Then God said to Noah, “The end of all flesh has come before Me; for the earth is filled with violence because of them; and behold, I am about to destroy them with the earth.”

6:11-13 “11  . 12  ,见 . 13 

Another separation from darkness and wicked occurs with Noah. God is separating Noah, a righteous man (Genesis 6:9) from the evil, wicked, dark world. God brings judgment on the wicked world and physically saves Noah and his family and brings them into a world separated from the wickedness.

3) Ezra chapters 9 & 10

Note these verses:

Ezra 9:1b-2 “The people of Israel and the priests and the Levites have not separated themselves from the peoples of the lands, according to their abominations, those of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites, the Egyptians and the Amorites. 2 For they have taken some of their daughters as wives for themselves and for their sons, so that the holy race has intermingled with the peoples of the lands; indeed, the hands of the princes and the rulers have been foremost in this unfaithfulness.” 

9:1-2 “1 

Note the leaders of Israel were the most unfaithful in marrying unbelievers, and the people also did sin against God.

Ezra 9:4 “Then everyone who trembled at the words of the God of Israel on account of the unfaithfulness of the exiles gathered to me, and I sat appalled until the evening offering.”

9:4  。”

Note the believing people who lived in sin trembled at the words of God.

Do you fellow believers in Christ tremble at God’s Word for having unbelieving boy-girlfriends”

Do you tremble for going to bed with them?

Do you tremble for marrying unbelievers? Your sins are so serious and you live such a low level of life you can not even see Light when it is shining upon you. You have been blinded by your sins! You need to cry out to God for grace and mercy to revive you. You need to separate immediately from unbelieving boy-girl friends.

But you can not separate from your marriage mate, unless they want to leave you, and you can never encourage them to leave you. 1 Corinthians 7:13,15 And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. 15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.

7:13,15 “13  15 

Ezra 10:3a  “So now let us make a covenant with our God to put away all the wives and their children…”

10:3 “

Note, these believers believed God’s Word, they confessed and repented from their sin of having unbelieving mates. They “put them away” means they separated from them and sent them away to go to their own unbelieving nations. At this time this was the right thing because Israel was God’s people, but it can not be done today according to 1Corinthians 7:13,15.

Ezra 10:11b “separate yourselves from the peoples of the land & from the foreign wives.”

The same is true today with Christians. We are not to have unbelieving boy-girlfriends. We are commanded by God to marry “only in the Lord.”

10:11 “ .

Ezra 10:14 “until the fierce anger of our God on account of this matter is turned away from us.” God is angry with Israel’s sins and is not blessing them, God is judging them. And the same is true today with Christians. Believers are under the discipline of God for having unbelieving boyfriends or girlfriends. And if you have sinfully married an unbeliever you need to believe God’s Word, confess and repent from your past sin.

10:14 “ ,同 , ,神 .

1 Corinthians 11:30 “For this reason many among you are weak and sick, and a number sleep (die).” 11:30 “

Why do you think believers in your local church are so weak, physically and spiritually?

Why do you think so many believers are sick, physically weak?

Why do some believers die an untimely death, a death before they are old?

Why do most Christians in China do not read their Bible, pray or attend a local church?

They live in sin and God is disciplining them and they are weak, sick and ready to die.

4) Nehemiah 13:23-27 “In those days I also saw that the Jews had married women from Ashdod, Ammon and Moab. 24 As for their children, half spoke in the language of Ashdod, and none of them was able to speak the language of Judah, but the language of his own people. 25 So I contended with them and cursed them and struck some of them and pulled out their hair, and made them swear by God, “You shall not give your daughters to their sons, nor take of their daughters for your sons or for yourselves. 26 Did not Solomon king of Israel sin regarding these things? Yet among the many nations there was no king like him, and he was loved by his God, and God made him king over all Israel; nevertheless the foreign women caused even him to sin. 27 Do we then hear about you that you have committed all this great evil by acting unfaithfully against our God by marrying foreign women?”

13:23-27 “23  24  25  26 

27 

Again we see years later that believing Israel still had not learned to obey God. To believe Christ as Savior is easy, but to grow is difficult. But the only satisfying life on earth is obeying God and growing up. And to receive eternal rewards and to reign with Christ in His Kingdom on earth we must obey and grow now.

You see what the man of God did, Nehemiah? He fought with those who had married foreigners, Nehemiah cursed them, he beat some physically and pulled out some of their hair. He was angry with them for disobeying God. God will discipline Christians today who disobey Him and have unbelieving boy-girlfriends and marry unbelievers.

CONCLUSION

The Word of God is very clear marry “only in the Lord.” We are to only marry fellow believers and preferably believers who obey God and are growing. Christians who have unbelieving boy-girlfriends, God says “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?”

As a Christian believer, your choice is to obey God or not. The consequences are blessings and growth for obedience, discipline and loss of rewards now and in the future for disobedience. You disobey God you disobey the very reason why God created you.

“It is a terrible thing (for you believer) to fall into the hands of the living God (and be judged by Him).”

“落 !”

 


六个你不想当富人的理由

大多数人都曾买过彩票,虽然我们都知道获胜的几率使得每次购买都成了一种可疑的经济行为,但无论如何我们都这样做。 在某种程度上来说,我们只是购买一个幻想。 我们问自己:我会用数百万美元做什么?我们设想着一些奇特而美妙的东西,例如买一艘超级游艇,带着所有的朋友去环球旅行。

我们没想到的是变富的结果比我们现有的情况更糟糕,而且这种情况比人们料想的要多得多。彩票赢家并不是唯一的暴富群体,众所周知,运动员、演员、甚至科技亿万富豪也都因暴富而受到影响。 下面是六个你不想变富的原因。

人们经常讨论纳税问题,而与暴富有关的纳税问题也是真实的。彩票奖金的联邦税率为39.6%。,而实际上,只有25%的联邦税被扣留,国家时常需要大量的奖金,地方税可能适用。 如果您决定分享自己的奖金,这种慷慨行为并不能减免税费或分担纳税义务。

虽然这不是回避中彩票的理由,但在你以狂热的消费方式击中巴哈马之前,必须牢记这一点。对于那些真正赚钱的亿万富翁来说,美国的税率是 39.6%。 也就是说,他们很少支付这笔费用。 他们的律师费要低于他们逃的税。

钱真的买不到幸福

这可能是陈词滥调,但它却是事实:金钱买不到幸福。尽管人们在中奖后立即表示幸福感增加了,但从长远来看,他们实际上并不开心。 为什么? 显然,中彩票使普通的日常生活变得不那么愉快了。

暴富综合症

暴富综合征是一种有据可查的现象,这是当一个不习惯大笔资金的人突然发现自己拥有了前所未有的现金时经常发生的事情。他们把这些钱花在荒谬的事情上,豪宅、豪车和糟糕的投资。 据一项研究显示:44%的中奖者在五年后破产, 三分之一的人正式宣布破产。据体育画报估计,60%的NFL球员在他们的合同结束五年后就身无分文了。所以找一份正常的工作赚钱生活要好过突然发现自己失业并得申请破产。

爱,家人和朋友

一项对数千名彩票获奖者的调查发现,在中奖后的三年中,赢得大量奖金的女性比赢得较少奖金的女性结婚的可能性要低40%。

不同的报纸对此有不同的解释,有些报道称是因为这些女性找不到真爱,另一些报道称是因为这些女性更享受单身生活。

尽管许多夫妇在彩票中奖后离婚,但研究发现离婚与彩票中奖并没有关系。有报道也指出,当曾经信任的同志变成了无耻的水蛭,友谊也随之终结了。

有趣的是,因暴富而被所爱的人谋杀的事情也时有发生。威廉·波斯特三世在中彩票后就被他兄弟雇佣的杀手盯上了。 Ibi Roncaioli 被丈夫毒死。 Urooj Khan 在领取了彩票奖金后的第二天就死于氰化物中毒,而他那时刚刚与妻子和女儿吃完晚餐,也正是她们瓜分了奖金。

膨胀的自我

如果你设法还清税款,明智地消费,维持和谐健康的人际关系,你仍然会发现暴富会让你变成一个连曾经的你都不太喜欢的人。

对于已经获得丰厚收入的人尤其如此。当演员、运动员或说唱歌手肯定需要才能,但这些人并不像那些靠最低工资养家活口的人那样辛苦地工作, 他们也不具备火箭科学家的技能。 可以说,我们的社会高估了他们的服务并为他们提供了高额的工资,而这些夸大的工资有时会导致自我膨胀。

我真的很喜欢用Kanye West 作为例证,但事实证明,在赚钱之前他认为自己就像上帝一样。 还有很多例子, 贾斯汀比伯,凯瑟琳海格尔和麦当娜只是一些知名度特别高的演员,他们都一样让人无法忍受。

科技亿万富翁也陷入财富陷阱。许多科技亿万富翁通过一些才能和运气获得了财富,但成功很快冲昏了他们的头脑。 Mark Cuban 为例,他于1999年以57亿美元的价格将一家科技公司出售给了雅虎。最近古巴人吹嘘说如果他竞选总统,他可以击败希拉里克林顿并粉碎唐纳德特朗普。

有钱可能会让你变得保守。

如果保持自由主义的敏感性对你很重要,那么或许中彩票并不能帮助你保持对自己的忠诚。在英国沃里克大学的一项引人入胜的研究中,彩票中奖者倾向于转向支持右翼政党,变得不那么平等。 胜利越大,越多的人向右倾斜。


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6 Reasons You Don’t Want To Get Rich

The Alternative Daily - June 13, 2016 —Erin Wildermuth

Most people have bought a lottery ticket at one point or another. We all know the odds of winning makes each ticket purchase a questionable economic action, but we do it anyway. In part, we’re paying for a nudge to the imagination. We ask ourselves: What would I do with millions of dollars? We imagine something fanciful and wonderful, something like buying a super yacht and taking all of our friends on an around-the-world tour.

What we don’t imagine is winding up worse off than we already are, but this happens more often than one might think. Lottery winners aren’t the only recipients of easy cash. Athletes, actors and even tech billionaires have been known to suffer as a result of sudden wealth. Here are six reasons you don’t want to get rich.

Taxes

Though commonly discussed, the tax problems associated with landfall riches are real. Federal taxes on lottery winnings are 39.6 percent. Only 25 percent is actually withheld for federal taxes. Oftentimes the state also demands a chunk of winnings. Local taxes might apply. If you decide to share your winnings, that generosity will not include a lessening or sharing of tax obligations.

While this is no reason to shun a lottery win, it is certainly something to keep in mind before hitting the Bahamas on a spending spree.

For those billionaires that actually earn their money, the US tax bracket is 39.6 percent. That said, they rarely pay that amount. Their lawyers are less expensive than the taxes they dodge.

Money really can’t buy happiness

It may be a cliché, but it’s true: money can’t buy happiness. Though people report increased happiness levels immediately after the win, they are actually less happy in the long run. Why? Apparently winning the lottery makes mundane, everyday events less pleasurable.

Sudden wealth syndrome

Sudden wealth syndrome is a well-documented phenomenon. It’s what often happens when someone unaccustomed to large sums of money suddenly finds themselves with an unprecedented amount of cash. They spend it on ridiculous things.

Multiple homes, fancy cars and terrible investments are par for the course. According to one study, 44 percent of people who win the lottery are broke five years later. A third actually declare bankruptcy. Sports Illustrated estimates that 60 percent of NFL players are dead broke just five years after their contracts end.

Better to work a regular job and have money for your bills than find yourself unemployed and filing for bankruptcy.

Love, family and friends

A survey of thousands of lottery winners found that women who won a large amount were 40 percent less likely to marry in the next three years than those who won lesser amounts. Different papers have read this in different ways, with some reporting the woman can’t find love and others assuming that they are enjoying the single life.

Despite many examples of couples who have divorced following lottery winnings, studies find no correlation between divorce and a lottery win. Several accounts point to dissolving friendships as once-trusted comrades become shameless leeches.

Interestingly, murder by loved ones isn’t off the table. William Post the Third had a hitman after him following his lottery win. The would-be killer had been hired by his brother. Ibi Roncaioli was poisoned by her husband. Urooj Khan died of cyanide poisoning the day after collecting his lottery winnings. He had just finished dinner with his wife and daughter, who split the winnings.

Inflated ego

If you manage to pay off your taxes, spend wisely, and keep your relationships happy and healthy, you may still find that sudden wealth turns you into a person the old you wouldn’t much like.

This is especially true of people who have earned their riches. Being an actor, athlete or rapper certainly takes talent, but these people don’t work as hard as those supporting a family on minimum wage. Nor do they possess the skills of a rocket scientist. Arguably, our society overvalues their services and provides them with heavily inflated wages. These inflated wages sometimes lead to an inflated ego.

I would really like to use Kanye West as an illustration, but it turns out he thought himself god-like before making any money at all. There are still plenty of examples. Justin Bieber, Katherine Heigl and Madonna are just a few top performers who are known to be particularly unbearable.

Tech billionaires also fall into this trap of fortune. Many a tech billionaire arrived at their fortune through a bit of talent and a lot of luck, but success quickly goes to their heads. Take Mark Cuban, for example. He sold a tech company to Yahoo for $5.7 billion in 1999. Recently Cuban boasted that he could beat Hillary Clinton and “crush” Donald Trump if he ran for president.

Having money might make you a conservative

If maintaining liberal sensibilities are important to you, then perhaps winning the lottery will not help you remain true to yourself. In a fascinating study from the University of Warwick in the UK, lottery winners “tend to switch towards support for a right-wing political party and to become less egalitarian. The larger the win, the more people tilt to the right.”

 

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Accountability and Eternal Rewards

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你可以获得永远的安全感 

You Can Be Eternally Secure

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你可以确实的知道! 

You Can Be Sure

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Run for the Prize
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Nicolaitanism 

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五種愛的語言 Five Love Languages - Gary Chapman    
 
隨著時日的增長﹐夫妻在婚姻中共有的 人事物會越來越多(小孩﹑財產﹑家 庭﹑親友﹑共同的回憶﹑共同渡過的 歲月…)﹐但是最重要的是夫妻之間的愛情是否越來越深﹑越醇﹑ 越真﹑越強﹖夫妻之間 要有三種感情﹕愛情﹑友情﹑恩情﹐三情交織在一 起﹐剪不斷﹑理還亂﹗它們像愛之樹的三條根﹐盤根錯結纏在一起﹐ 卻只開一種花朵。這棵樹要我們好好澆灌﹑好好栽培﹐惟有天主叫它生長。

 

·                         (以弗所書 5:22) 順服丈夫 你們作妻子的,當順服自己的丈夫,如同順服主。
·                         (以弗所書 5:25) 愛妻子 你們作丈夫的,要愛你們的妻子,正如基督愛教會,為教會捨己。
·                         (提多 書 2:4) 愛丈夫 好指教少年婦人,愛丈夫,愛兒女。
愛情絕對是婚姻的基礎。樹愈高愈大﹐所需要的水就愈多。同理﹐隨著年日的過去﹐婚姻愈久﹐所需要愛情的澆灌也就愈多﹗ 如何澆灌我們的婚姻呢﹖溝通。要溝通就要懂對方的語言。愛情也是一樣﹐根據人類學家蓋瑞巧門
(Gary Chapman) 的研究﹐有五種基本的語言:

 

五種愛的語言,向配偶表達真心的承諾。
Five Love Languages help people speak and understand emotional love.

 

1. 肯定的話 Affirmation 馬克吐溫: 一句恭維的好話﹐我可以活兩個月。人人都需要肯定。 男女有別﹐一般說來﹐男人在這方面需要的比女人多。 
肯定的話﹑欣賞的話﹑鼓勵的話﹑感激的話﹑讚美的話﹑恭維的話﹑感性的話﹑幽默的話。

 

2. 相處時間 Quality Time 女人比較在意的是相處的時間。許多妻子所求於丈夫的不是鑽戒﹐ 而是相處時光﹐就是倆人耗在一起﹐什麼事都不做也罷﹐你看我﹑我看你。 
專門陪他﹐切莫他說他的﹑你做你的。對方說話時﹐要注視對方﹐ 深情款款。要洗耳恭聽﹐耐心傾聽﹐不打岔﹐從頭聽到尾。注意對方的肢體語言。聽話中話而有感情共鳴﹐所謂心有靈犀一點通。

 

3. 會心禮物 Receiving Gifts 愛對方就會送他禮物。會心禮物﹐並不一定值得很多錢﹐ 但它卻是無價之寶。

 

4. 愛的服事 Acts of Service 如果你愛一個人﹐自然想要為他做一些事。夫妻之愛也是如此﹔ 反過來說﹐如果夫妻有一邊不為對方做些事﹐對方的感受是﹕你是不是不愛我了﹖

 

5. 親密接觸 Physical Touch 親密接觸包括一同坐在沙發上﹑牽手﹑親熱﹑擁抱﹑親吻﹐ 當然還有性生活。

 


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